WAY OFF TOPIC but....

[skyhawka4m]

I am reaching out to my freinds for shoulders tonight.

My wife announced to me this morning she wanted a divorce. It has me all tore up inside and out, and my son, Matthew, is beside himself.

I know this is odd to some but......I'm really needing some good words right now.


thanks folks.......and I am sorry for the way off topic


john binford

[Walter]

Dang! I'm sorry man! I know that we have never really interacted, but please take comfort in knowing that you and your son will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm sorry to hear about that...

Walter

[N2056]

John, I'm so sorry to hear this news. I'm especially sorry to hear that there is a child involved. I wish I had some sort of advice to give, but realistically I don't. Certainly your family will be in thought and prayer during this time.

Hang in there!

[MudMarine]

Sorry to hear that John! I've been there, about two years ago. Healing comes one day at a time. It's not easy hearing the person you trusted tell you that she no longer loves you. I found comfort in my family and faith. I know it probably doesn't help you much right now but I'm the happiest I've been in a long time; you will be again also someday soon! The end of a not so good/bad marriage ending was like lifting ton off my heart! Hang in and know there are people that truely love you for you!!

[fallenphoenix1986]

Sorry dude

My parents went through this when I was 7, it hurt at first but just like MudMarine said it gets better. As long as your both there for your son he'll be fine.

Craig

[Sundog]

I don't have any sagely advice other than for you to hang in there and take it one day at a time. Also, talk to whoever you need to talk to, don't bottle it up. I wish you the best in getting through this trying time.

[Felixthreeone]

Wow. I am truly saddened to hear that, John. I am a firm believer, though, that people like yourself are resilient. And, with the prayers and thoughts of those here in this tight-knit community, you can make it through this extremely difficult time. Hang in there, pal

[Bob.sc]

Sorry to hear of this John. Take care of business and press forward with your life and care for your son.
Always sounds like 'bad news' but you know sometimes...this can be 'Good news' if you know what I mean.
Hang tight,
Bob

[cputters]

Hey John

I know I'm very green on these boards, but as someone who has just gone through this, I can tell you it gets better mate.

Try to keep it civil with the child's interests in mind and it'll all work out.

Chris

[Hughes-MDflyer4]

John,

Very sorry to hear this! You and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts.

Best Regards,
Brandon

[roger-wilco-66]

Hi John,

I know how that feels, I've been there too, and it's terrible - but only in the first stadium.
All I can say from my experience is carry on, keep your son in your focus, and you and he will be fine. What Mudmarine mentioned above reflects very much how I feel today about it. The whole thing lifted a ton off my shoulders once I got over the blues.

All the best,
Mark

PS: A song came to my mind that I listen to very often in these days and that was sort of a guidance:

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone,
I can see all obstacles in my way
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind
It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.

I think I can make it now, the pain is gone
All of the bad feelings have disappeared
Here is the rainbow I’ve been prayin for
It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.

Look all around, there’s nothin but blue skies
Look straight ahead, nothin but blue skies

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone,
I can see all obstacles in my way
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind
It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.

[Roger]

I've been there John and it hurts like hell, but time and a fresh angle on things does help the healing.
As you wrote it is way off topic but it's good that you think of this forum as your second home...you will be in all our thoughts.

Roger.

[MenendezDiego]

I know it doesn't seem to make sense, but your bond with your son will only grow stronger because of this.

Regards, Diego

[DaveQ]

So sorry to hear your sad news John. For what it's worth, when my first wife and I divorced it was hell for a while but the thing that still holds us together is our three children, as well as a deep abiding love and affection. I remarried but that went t*ts up 4 years ago and I'm back with my first wife. The kids are grown up (the youngest is 31) and we're very happy growing old together. You never really know where these things will end so don't give up on it.

Sincere best wishes

DaveQ

[Ascua02]

Hi John, been there recently (as a matter of fact fighting the last odds and sods).

It hurts like a son of a bit** and seems like life has gone down the drain.

But what all the lads here have said is right, the pain will grow smaller, things will ease and as MudMarine said you will feel like something heavy has been lifted from your shoulders. Not today or next month but one of these days you WILL wake up and find that once again you are proud to see that chap in the mirror in the morning.

A somebody said to me at the time: "In this order, take care of yourself, keep on your feet and hang in there (your son will need YOU), keep it as civil and diplomatic as possible (neither you or your son need anymore hassle) and finally take very much care of the kid."

Nothing more to say, Pal, keep your feet on the floor, the nose in the air and avoid the stall. And if you need something, just shout.


Saludos Hermano


Jose Angel "Ascua02"