Time to Cease and Desist!

***falcon409*** · March 29th, 2019, 15:33

In order to keep this observation clear of another on-going thread, I simply wanted to point out that acting like a "Mother Hen" scolding her young is not needed, appropriate or expected from a close knit community such as this. We have a good friend and contributor who has had to come to grips with an unfortunate incident and who, with the help of friends and members is working through that problem. We are all behind him and will give whatever encouragement or support is needed to hopefully allow him to have the best possible outcome.

"I told you so" posts are out of line. . .no other way to put it. If you are going to post something in that thread, then take the time to "read" the thread, don't just look at the title of the thread and decide to throw your 2-cents on top of the pile. Read what has transpired, find out what Gordon and others are doing to help. . .DO NOT assume you know everything about his situation and the progress he is making and then puff up your chest and tell him what he should have done. Arm-chair experts do not have a place in this or any other thread. . .we've been through those in the past and many are no longer here. We need good people who care about the community and care . . .genuinely care about it's members.

So drop the attitude. If you have something to add to the conversation. . .a suggestion that might shed new light on the matter at hand or a helpful hint. . .make it but leave the attitude at the door.

Thanks!

**BendyFlyer** · March 29th, 2019, 15:57

Well put Falcon. You expect a certain degree of civility and it never ceases to surprise me, attitude substituted for brains and empathy. Stuff ups we have all been there and done that in varying degrees. We also need to come to grips with the fundamental problem that software folk don't think of everything or have not taken into account other variables and hence fail to provide clear and unequivocal guidance to users. When one of the community shares those issues and experiences and in a way which is cooperative and unblemished, we all learn. Pig parent syndrome has no place in safety or engineering.

**heywooood** · March 29th, 2019, 16:00

needed to be said - unfortunately...

hopefully folks will just let it all settle now. Good on you Falcon , for this well rendered reminder to just be cool and whatnot

**FlyingsCool** · March 29th, 2019, 17:12

***Willy*** · March 29th, 2019, 17:14

Like one of the founders here used to say. Let being helpful be more important than being right.

***fsafranek*** · March 29th, 2019, 20:44

Originally Posted by Willy

Like one of the founders here used to say. Let being helpful be more important than being right.

Yep. That used top be at the top of the page. It was always a good reminder.

***TARPSBird*** · March 29th, 2019, 23:52

Very well said, Falcon.

I was thinking the same thing for the past couple days when I saw Gordon taking hits from some other posters.

**stansdds** · March 30th, 2019, 03:59

Originally Posted by Willy

Like one of the founders here used to say. Let being helpful be more important than being right.

Absolutely!!! We all make mistakes and once recognized, admonition and insult is not constructive. Something that was told to me a very long time ago and has stuck with me ever since; when you point your finger at someone, you have three fingers pointing back at you. We should not berate, but we should uplift.

By the way, I should know about mistakes. You would not believe the mistakes I have made and continue to make.

**Blackbird686** · March 30th, 2019, 04:46

Originally Posted by Willy

Like one of the founders here used to say. Let being helpful be more important than being right.

Maybe we should put that slogan back at the top where it was... Just a thought. I have read the thread by the chap in question and initially, I didn't post a reply because I'm not an active member of this forum. But I will say this, that person has had nothing but good things, and kind words to say, to me as well as everyone I know here. I sincerely hope that he gets it all sorted and... I agree with Falcon... enough said.

BB686

**tgycgijoes** · March 30th, 2019, 05:26

I believe that almost everyone knows the story of Job from the Bible. Instead of helping or consoling all Job's friends did was criticize and offer no help. Kinda like a few folks mentioned here? Thank you Falcon for a needed post.

I pray that Gordon get's it all straightened out. He has helped me out a lot in the past as have you, thank you Falcon.

Well said!